Power of Words

March 17, 2014 at 8:43 PMZoomBlog

Power of Words

“It’s not what you say but how you say it.”  This “Dear Abbey” column was on our refrigerator door growing up as a kid (funny what sticks with you, right?)  Perhaps this was a reminder for my parents on how to communicate with my sister and me. Or maybe it was a not-so-subtle reminder to me to not be a turkey!

Either way, the words we choose are second to the intent behind them.  The frame through which we see the world determines the intent.  And what determines the frame?  I think it all comes back to the state that we live in.  No, not South Carolina or Tennessee, but the state of mind we’re in when we open our mouths. 

Someone just cut you off on your way to training.  You’re still fuming as you get out the car.  Obviously still in a pretty pissed off state.  Do you think your intent and then your words will be affected by the frame of mind you’re in?  You betcha.

First is to realize that you’re in this state of mind, and then realizing that it won’t serve you.  That it will prevent you from displaying your highest and best self.   Then go into a state of mind that will serve you.  Sounds simple, but this distinction will not only change the quality of your life, but also the quality of the lives of the players you coach.  Which, at the end of the day, isn’t so bad of a mission: to positively shape the lives of the world’s youth?

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